Rejoice in hope; be patient in affliction; be persistent in prayer. Romans 12:12
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about friends and families that have experienced losses at different levels this year. Some have lost loved ones, others jobs, homes, friends, dreams, etc. The holidays can be very tough when our hearts are heavy with grief. Honestly, trying to put on a smile can hurt.
Today I just wanted to say – Dear friend I am so sorry for your loss. My prayer is that you will experience God’s peace and comfort. May He speak to you in unexpected and wonderful ways.
Having a safe place and person to go to when the sadness is overwhelming is important. Being able to acknowledge the feelings of loss, sorrow, pain and even anger is an important part of the healing process. Some have that safe place and person others not so much. In that case creating a special place in our home can be helpful. Place where you can unload the heaviness of grief before the Lord.
Here is an idea that may help you or someone you love in creating a “special place”:
*Candle – to light up the path to healing
*Bible – to comfort and encourage your soul
*Blanc pieces of paper - to write down that which you have hard time letting go, your feelings at the moment that weigh on your heart, it could be even just one word that describes where you are at this time.
*Empty Box – representing the hands of Jesus, the place to keep the pieces of paper you’ve written
*Tissues – to wipe the tears if they come
Some of us may feel uncertain how to reach out and help someone that is going through a rough time. First we must accept and understand that there are waves of sorrow and pain. There are also different stages to be expected that the bereaved person experiences:
How long it takes for the deep hurt to heal? That varies from person to person depending on their ability to adjust to the new reality and accepting life in God’s will. Be kind and patient the deep hurt may never completely heal this side of heaven. As caring friends and family we are there to provide comfort not necessarily to analyze and explain. How to walk with the one in sorrow:
*Show you understand their feelings
*Point to God
*Relate the Word to their needs
*Show you care
*Pray with and for them
* We leave open invitation for the grieving person to share feelings and needs
Eight years working for hospice has not made me an expert on the topic of grief. That is my husband’s “territory”, as a hospice chaplain he holds the hands of young and old as they face death on daily basis. What I wanted to do today is share simple truths I’ve learned along the way that may help us all to share God’s love with those whose hearts are grieving this Christmas.
From our family to yours we wish you a Blessed Christmas and New Year 2014.
Walk with God glorify His name.
You just finished reading “It’s Christmas but It Hurts to Smile”. Please join the conversation share your thoughts and comments.
My prayer is that this will be a place where you find hope and nourishment for your soul.
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